Sundays

Life is full of twists and turns, the only way for it all to work out is to confront your problems and face your fears. I know I say a lot of stuff on this blog more than once, but I'm going to keep saying it until at least one person gets the point.

Whether life throws you family, personal, social, or religious problems, you have to swing back at it harder. You can't accept being treated anything below what you feel you should be treated.

So as much as you're afraid to break out of that shell you're in, just remember once you do, people are going to see you for who you really are and you'll finally be able to spread your wings and fly.


XOXO,

Ruthie<3

A Word To The Wise

Personal Blog [Advice Below]
ALWAYS do your homework. As lame and "nerdy" you may think that sounds, do it. Right now I'm doing horribly in all of my classes but one, and I really have to get my grade up if I want to continue to attend the Prep school I'm currently attending...yikes. Even though I hate going to that school with a passion, I don't want to get kicked out!
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So, now for my REAL advice for today:

-Don't ever be embarrassed to hang out with kids who are considered the "untouchables" or social-outcasts at your school. 8 times out of 10 they're very smart and well-intentioned, and make great friends and project partners. Besides, a true popular person doesn't treat people in a cruel manner just because of who the person thinks they are, but how they would want to be treated (EVERYONE should know the Golden Rule by now... ;) ).

-BE TRUE TO YOURSELF! I cannot stress that enoungh. Just because some people do things that other people considered cool and you don't agree with, that doesn't mean you have to do it. Find your own niche! Share it with others and have fun!

I'm seriously considering doing an online self-renewal program in the summer with giveaways, health/beauty tips, icebreaker tips, and more of course. I could probably Tweet it, and I'd probably do daily posts for that....Idk, we'll have to see how many people would actually be interested in that.

XOXO,
Ruthie

High School Drama (And How to Deal With It)

We've all dabbled in it (or will during our high school years) so let's talk about it.

Whether it's about the opposite sex or friend troubles, it's always tough on both parties. So, here are a few quick tips to dealing with all the drama.:

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1. Avoid it in the first place. Try to be polite and courteous about the situation at hand and don't get involved a lot if you don't need to.



2. Instigating: the Root of it all: DON'T instigate. If your friend has something to say to the person she's arguing with, tell her she needs to handle that herself. Also, don't go around telling anyone what you thought you heard or what so-n-so did. If it doesn't help end this little feud, it doesn't need to be told to anyone.

3. Picking Sides: Once you made it clear who's side you're on, there's no switching sides. You're showing you support one friend over the other, despite the reason they're arguing, and this can do a great damage to your friendship with the friend on the opposing side. So a little advice: Don't ever pick sides.

4. Be rational, think it out: Do you even know why your friends are fighting? If so, think about why they might be so upset and come up with a list of reasons this whole situation is stupid. Try explaining these reasons to them kindly, and let them know how crazy this whole deal is.

5. Think about it. You know the situation and if you give it a little thought, you'll know exactly what to do! :P
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--As much time I've missed posting on this blog, I have plenty of lost time to catch up on! So tomorrow (NO SCHOOL!), new post! And that's a promise! lol


XӨXӨ,
яυтнιє♥

Sheesh.... it's been a while!

12 days to be exact!

I've been extremely busy with exams and extracurriculars, but I'm here to stay. :P

I hope you are still writing in your journals, and following all of your goals. Because without this help, it's going to be much harder to achieve your goals.

As many of you probably already know, I write based on my experience or the experience of others. And for those of you who know me, you know that I am extremely shy and I am especially shy around boys. Since then, I've gotten over this, so I thought, why not write a quick guide on it?

Sometimes when you get around the opposite sex, you get really nervous. You don't know what to say or you don't stop talking, you keep wondering if they like you, even though you're not in the least bit attracted to them.

Yeah. It gets awkward. But once you really face your fears, you can establish a healthy friendship with a guy (or girl).

Step 1: **Coming Soon....Sorry guys I have a meeting & an eggroll calling my name!! :P**

tt4n, Ruthie♥

Parties

Whoa! It's been a couple of days...

I went to a really crazy party last night, and got home this morning and, I met some really cool people and, this is what this blog will be all about...

So, with school tomorrow and probably a few Valentine's parties coming up, here are a few tips to help you out:

-If you see someone sitting alone, or with a group of friends, join them. Talk about the music and how funny that guy looks dancing or how good Joey is a dancer.

-When your friends are talking to their friends, show interest in the conversation. Like always, friends of friends are really good friends to make, because at least your friends can tell you a little about them.

-Dance!! If you're not a good dancer, you can always dance with a female friend if you feel more comfortable doing that instead of trying to impress a guy. ;)

-Keep it clean!! A guy isn't going to notice you just because you do some dirty dancing with him. It sounds so cliche, but it does happen.

Although I'm not the brave and dancing type, I found others who weren't either and we really kicked it off. Doing this gave me time to hang with old friends, meet some new friends (who are friends of friends) and just have fun. Before this I never really thought that "freshmeat" (freshmen) could actually hang out with upperclassmen...lol I was wrong. Look at it this way: Don't judge anyone by labels or stereotypes. Look at everyone like they're BFF-material.

So go [cleanly] party your hearts out! Meet some new people and have fun! Well, g2g, watching the Superbowl!!

XOXO,

Ruthie<3

Word's of Advice:

"♥True Friendship cannot be bought or stolen; only earned.♥"

This weekend, I want you all to think. Do you want more friends for all the right reasons?? Or do you just want to have a lot of friends regardless to whether they like you or not?

--Think about it.

XOXO,
Ruthie<3

I'm not really a political person but--

CONGRATULATIONS BARACK OBAMA!!

The change you bring to this country will be hopefully great for us all!!

Anywhoo-

I'm having a pretty off day--nothing a big goal won't fix! I usually post about 4 or 5 goals buut today, how about we add info for the basis of this guide:

1. This week you're going to let everyone know you want to be friends with them. (No, this doesn't mean randomly going up to people and telling them you want to be their friend...)

Ice-Breakers:

Day One: Walk in someone elses' shoes. Talk to them, as if they were talking to you.

Day Two: Meet up with old friends. Especially those you talked to yesterday.

Day Three: Ask someone to do you a favor, but make sure you thank them/repay them. Building trust is a great way to build a friendship.

Day Four: Do a Favor.

Day Five: Work Together. Regardless if it's at school in a group for a class, or even scheduling what you're going to do for the weekend, find some new friends and work together.

Day Six: Play Together. When the work is all done, play is definitely great!

Day Seven: Thanks. Say thank you to everyone you believe enjoys it. This personal act of kindness makes people feel really special.

Technical Difficulties.. =(

Hey everyone! Still experiencing a few technical difficulties with the site...(ie: comments aren't working still =[)

That's going to hopefully be fixed soon but until then I wanted to tell you all some good news--later. ;)

Enjoy the Suspense....

XOXO,

Ruthie<3

~~Update~~
Comments are working for now!!

--Gotta go--I'm watching Another Cinderella Story on ABC Family!! Check it out!

Ooh The Weather Outside is Frightful...but Valentine's Day is so delightful..

Yeah, Christmas has come and gone, but the weather??

Yup. Still Here. ughhhh..

Which means I'm going to be doing something more, welll, productive for my readers...especially because I'm a bit snowed in.... =(

So what's it gonna be?? Valentine's Day Advice?? More Goals?? Hmmm, how bout advice?? With the big dance coming up you're going to need all the time you can get...
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Boys: Asking a guy out to a dance is difficult, I admit it. But, it's waay better than waiting for HIM to ask YOU. Just like us, guys wait for us to make the first move. But, if no one makes the first move, you're both dateless.

"But what if he doesn't like me?"
--If he doesn't like you, wouldn't you rather know than crushing on a guy that isn't crushing on you back? So what he doesn't like you, there are still plenty of guys at your school. And if not at your school, other schools are crawling with hot guys who might share your interests.

"I'm still too afraid to ask him..."
--And I don't blame you. As much grief us girls get for being "difficult", guys are really hard to read, too! What I recommend you do in this situation is call up a loyal friend who is friends with your crush or friends with your crush's friend. Have them hint around about who they like.

"How do I ask him?"
--Writing a note may not be the best resort, but, in some cases it might be ok. Notes can be stolen or put into the wrong hands, and that can be embarrassing for the both of you. Try asking him at lunch, during passing time, or calling him when he doesn't look busy or crowded by other people. "Hey Ricky. I was wondering... will you be my date to the Valentine's Dance?"

FYI: Dropping hints of flirtation can come in handy...
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Going Stag: Going stag means going alone or with a group of friends. If your friends have dates and for some reason for don't, that definitely sucks. If all your friends have dates and you don't want to go alone, don't stay home. Do find another group of friends to go with. Talk to new people or people you speak with occasionally, and bring it up in a conversation. Suggest you and some other people go in a group!

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Finding The Right Outfit: The perfect Valentine's Day dress doesn't have to be expensive, it doesn't even have to be pink. Debs, Forever21 & dELiA's have a few nice dresses... Macy's also has some, which might cost a bit more, but are really gorgeous. As for outfits not dance-related my favorite shopping places for the moment are Forever21, WetSeal, dELiAs, and maybe even Charlotte Russe. Check out Polyvore.com to put your outfit together and get feedback free...You never know, you might just find my page... ;) & Remember: Cute accessories make your outfit pop!
*PS--Whoa, I sure did go link-crazy!! Lol =P
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Well--That's all for today! Check back soon to see more tips and advice!

XOXO,

Ruthie<3

PS: Look!! Comments are finally working so comment your hearts out!
Private questions/comments can be directed to: misspopularity_rs@yahoo.com

Valentine's Day Dilemma?? No worries!!

With Valentine's Day coming up, everything's been madness at school..

-"Who's gonna take me to the Valentine's Day Dance?"
-"Why is he going with HER?!?!"
-"How do I ask my crush out?"
-"Should I go Stag??"

First of all, BREATHE. Next, here's a step-by-step for approaching the 14th!

Dress: Debs has A LOT of affordable, cute dresses for Size 3-Plus.

Date: If you can't find a date or you're too nervous to ask out a guy, you can always go stag (alone) or with a group of friends. It takes a lot of pressure off the night and it's a lot of fun.

But, if you do want to ask that special person out, keep it simple and sweet. One reason we get so depressed after getting rejected is because we put too much into asking them out. It might suck being rejected, but there are always other boys to ask!! Maybe you want to ask a guy out, who you want to get to know better!! Doing this, is soo much easier than asking the guy you've been crushing on for months!!!

G2G!
Ruthie<3

Hoollyyy Crapp!!

Why didnt anyone wake me?? Didnt ANYONE hear the alarm clock going off?!?!?!?
4 days. 4 days. Sorry guys, I've been running around hectic all week. But, to pick up for tomorrow...Ill do for 4 rules, symbolizing the 4 days I missed...lol:

Day 3 (Weekend):

1-Are you still working on your sport?? Either way, keep working at it. No matter what. Well, remember when I told you to create a Journal?? Take a little bit of space to write about your progress in getting prepared for the sport. You can do it!

2-Last-minute weekend plans: Tomorrow go ahead and ask a friend if they wanna hang out!! Tell them to invite a friend or two! That way, you can get to know them as well as them getting to know you! Always stay on your best behavior. =]

3- Compliments. Throw out random compliments to random people you'd really like to talk to. This is a great conversation starter. For example: "Hey, omg I love your shoes! Where'd you get em?" "--Really? I love that store! Did you get your shirt there too?"

And finally, number 4....*drumroll please...*

--Hang out w/ a "popular". Yup. Ask em to hang out. It could be a popular friend, cousin, sister, w/e. Just do something fun and enjoy yourself!


Well, I gotta go. School tomorrow, which bites. Bye!!

PS: I've gotten some of your emails, andd it'd be great to start including the readers in the blog to make it a lot better...lol. Once we get more readers, I'll definitely put this into consideration and possibly put together a team to work on the blog. The blog is still in the starting process so please bare with me!

♥,
Ruthie!<3

Success??

Well, I did the goals, all but one. Walking. I blame it on my being extremely busy today, but I know that's not a good enough excuse. In that case.....My score???

--3.5 out of 5--

Maybe because when I did talk to the people I talked to today and when I passed people, my voice was really quiet still AND I was a bit nervous. Even talking to my own relatives!! yikes!

Well, with school tomorrow I've decided to draw up some more Goals for you and I anndd this time, we're going to get a little bit more tough:

Goal #1: Pick out a nice outfit. Ask a friend what they think about it.

Tell them to BE HONEST. This will either give you the self-confidence you lack, or make you stronger. Just because someone doesn't like your outfit doesn't mean YOU don't have to like your outfit. Ask them what they don't like about it. Don't argue with their opinion, just accept it and take it as building criticism.

Goal #2: Talk to more people at school.

Maybe you'll spark a new friendship or two. Remember, DON'T be nervous and speak up. It'll be hard at first but once you get the hang of it, it'll be natural to you.

Goal #3: Get ready to join a club or sports team. Yup, I said it. You're going to be apart of an extracurricular activity.

Whether it be cheerleading, basketball, track, or even drama, get ready, cause in a few months or so, you're going to make it!! Find someone on a team or find an alternate to learning the basics of the sport you're going to go out for. Being on a team is a great way to make friends because before the end of the season, you will probably be friends with a few people on the team!

As for Goals #4 & 5, I'll leave a wildcard. Choose what YOU think your goals should be for today (hence, tomorrow...)

Well, I gotta go get ready for school tomorrow!! Ciao!

XOXO,
Ruthie <3

The Basics

Hey guys it's Ruthie! Here's my post for Day 1 of the guide:

~DAY 1~:
Today is Saturday, so I'm using my time to prep for going back to school after our short holiday break. Since I didn't really introduce myself, here I go:

• My name is Ruthie, I'm 15 years old, and a freshman in high school.

• I guess I'm really shy, which I'm gonna work on through this blog. While doing that, I'll help discover your problems, and together, we'll strive to become "popular" in a sense.

• I'm a typical teenage girl. I love reading fashion magazines, watching movies, and shopping. I also love sports, but I don't play any right now. :(

Now that we've got that covered, let's start our Day 1 of the guide...

Being popular is very important to a lot of teens today. But why do you want to be popular? What to you want to be popular for?

There are a variety of different kinds of popular people, we're going to focus on becoming well-liked for positive things and friends.

Since that's also covered, here are the goals for Day 1. These goals are something to help you on your mission to making more true friends, which is what REAL popularity is all about.

Goal #1: Have a conversation with someone new today. I don't care if it's a teen, a friend of a friend, or even an old lady. This will give you a little feel of socializing.

Goal #2: Pamper yourself. I don't care whether you're a boy or a girl, everyone deserves some pampering. Take a long relaxing bath and just listen to your favorite music. Bust out the nail kit and give yourself a manicure. Inviting a friend to join along will make this even more fun. But, if none are available, silence is always golden!

Goal #3: Get a journal. This might sound cheesy, but it'll help you a lot. And if you have nosy siblings and parents, you could always go to Penzu.com . It's a free website where you can sign-up and start journaling. Best thing is that it's password-protected. You can write anything in this journal. Your goals and how you've achieved them, lyrics to a song you're writing, private feelings you can't tell anyone else, etc. This way is a start so that you won't keep everything bottled up inside.

Goal #4: Go for a walk. Today's goals are mostly about helping you unwind and feel relaxed. Go for a walk or jog to relieve your stress. Sometimes, walking alone can be dangerous, so take a trusted friend and cell phone and don't forget to tell you're parents. If you cannot do that, don't walk very far from home, because this can be dangerous with or without a friend. Staying in a 2-block radius is good for a short, relaxing walk.

Goal #5: Begin quitting a bad habit. This may be talking quietly constantly. Now, this doesn't mean to YELL at everyone that passes you by, just find a middle point. Also, your bad habit could be biting your nails, or always looking angry. Whatever it is, take a small step towards ending this bad habit.

Try to acheive all 5 goals and you're one step closer to your goal of popularity. I'll complete these goals along with you so check back reguarly to see how it all went for me. If you need any advice on ANYTHING, please feel free to email me at: misspopularity_rs@yahoo.com . This is an email account I've made just for this blog, so I will be checking it often.

XOXO,

Ruthie <3

About the Blog.

I know, what a suck-ish way to start off a blog. But here it goes:

Well, I'm not the most popularest girl at school. That goes for a bunch of other people, too. And all that crap about Get Popular Quick books in my opinion= rubbish.

So I thought, why not take it into my own hands, to create a legit blog that, get this, actually helps people?? --I know what you're thinking. " Ruthie, that is sooooo impossible! I can't learn how to be popular!" Wrong. Don't underestimate this Babe Ruth xD.

So basically: This blog is a way to show my process to become popular postively and to help you become popular postively.

That's all for this intro folks. & remember, not all popularity is negative. You can be popular through your likeability, not just being a "slut".

XOXO,
Ruthie..<3

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