Word's of Advice:

"♥True Friendship cannot be bought or stolen; only earned.♥"

This weekend, I want you all to think. Do you want more friends for all the right reasons?? Or do you just want to have a lot of friends regardless to whether they like you or not?

--Think about it.

XOXO,
Ruthie<3

I'm not really a political person but--

CONGRATULATIONS BARACK OBAMA!!

The change you bring to this country will be hopefully great for us all!!

Anywhoo-

I'm having a pretty off day--nothing a big goal won't fix! I usually post about 4 or 5 goals buut today, how about we add info for the basis of this guide:

1. This week you're going to let everyone know you want to be friends with them. (No, this doesn't mean randomly going up to people and telling them you want to be their friend...)

Ice-Breakers:

Day One: Walk in someone elses' shoes. Talk to them, as if they were talking to you.

Day Two: Meet up with old friends. Especially those you talked to yesterday.

Day Three: Ask someone to do you a favor, but make sure you thank them/repay them. Building trust is a great way to build a friendship.

Day Four: Do a Favor.

Day Five: Work Together. Regardless if it's at school in a group for a class, or even scheduling what you're going to do for the weekend, find some new friends and work together.

Day Six: Play Together. When the work is all done, play is definitely great!

Day Seven: Thanks. Say thank you to everyone you believe enjoys it. This personal act of kindness makes people feel really special.

Technical Difficulties.. =(

Hey everyone! Still experiencing a few technical difficulties with the site...(ie: comments aren't working still =[)

That's going to hopefully be fixed soon but until then I wanted to tell you all some good news--later. ;)

Enjoy the Suspense....

XOXO,

Ruthie<3

~~Update~~
Comments are working for now!!

--Gotta go--I'm watching Another Cinderella Story on ABC Family!! Check it out!

Ooh The Weather Outside is Frightful...but Valentine's Day is so delightful..

Yeah, Christmas has come and gone, but the weather??

Yup. Still Here. ughhhh..

Which means I'm going to be doing something more, welll, productive for my readers...especially because I'm a bit snowed in.... =(

So what's it gonna be?? Valentine's Day Advice?? More Goals?? Hmmm, how bout advice?? With the big dance coming up you're going to need all the time you can get...
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Boys: Asking a guy out to a dance is difficult, I admit it. But, it's waay better than waiting for HIM to ask YOU. Just like us, guys wait for us to make the first move. But, if no one makes the first move, you're both dateless.

"But what if he doesn't like me?"
--If he doesn't like you, wouldn't you rather know than crushing on a guy that isn't crushing on you back? So what he doesn't like you, there are still plenty of guys at your school. And if not at your school, other schools are crawling with hot guys who might share your interests.

"I'm still too afraid to ask him..."
--And I don't blame you. As much grief us girls get for being "difficult", guys are really hard to read, too! What I recommend you do in this situation is call up a loyal friend who is friends with your crush or friends with your crush's friend. Have them hint around about who they like.

"How do I ask him?"
--Writing a note may not be the best resort, but, in some cases it might be ok. Notes can be stolen or put into the wrong hands, and that can be embarrassing for the both of you. Try asking him at lunch, during passing time, or calling him when he doesn't look busy or crowded by other people. "Hey Ricky. I was wondering... will you be my date to the Valentine's Dance?"

FYI: Dropping hints of flirtation can come in handy...
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Going Stag: Going stag means going alone or with a group of friends. If your friends have dates and for some reason for don't, that definitely sucks. If all your friends have dates and you don't want to go alone, don't stay home. Do find another group of friends to go with. Talk to new people or people you speak with occasionally, and bring it up in a conversation. Suggest you and some other people go in a group!

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Finding The Right Outfit: The perfect Valentine's Day dress doesn't have to be expensive, it doesn't even have to be pink. Debs, Forever21 & dELiA's have a few nice dresses... Macy's also has some, which might cost a bit more, but are really gorgeous. As for outfits not dance-related my favorite shopping places for the moment are Forever21, WetSeal, dELiAs, and maybe even Charlotte Russe. Check out Polyvore.com to put your outfit together and get feedback free...You never know, you might just find my page... ;) & Remember: Cute accessories make your outfit pop!
*PS--Whoa, I sure did go link-crazy!! Lol =P
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Well--That's all for today! Check back soon to see more tips and advice!

XOXO,

Ruthie<3

PS: Look!! Comments are finally working so comment your hearts out!
Private questions/comments can be directed to: misspopularity_rs@yahoo.com

Valentine's Day Dilemma?? No worries!!

With Valentine's Day coming up, everything's been madness at school..

-"Who's gonna take me to the Valentine's Day Dance?"
-"Why is he going with HER?!?!"
-"How do I ask my crush out?"
-"Should I go Stag??"

First of all, BREATHE. Next, here's a step-by-step for approaching the 14th!

Dress: Debs has A LOT of affordable, cute dresses for Size 3-Plus.

Date: If you can't find a date or you're too nervous to ask out a guy, you can always go stag (alone) or with a group of friends. It takes a lot of pressure off the night and it's a lot of fun.

But, if you do want to ask that special person out, keep it simple and sweet. One reason we get so depressed after getting rejected is because we put too much into asking them out. It might suck being rejected, but there are always other boys to ask!! Maybe you want to ask a guy out, who you want to get to know better!! Doing this, is soo much easier than asking the guy you've been crushing on for months!!!

G2G!
Ruthie<3

Hoollyyy Crapp!!

Why didnt anyone wake me?? Didnt ANYONE hear the alarm clock going off?!?!?!?
4 days. 4 days. Sorry guys, I've been running around hectic all week. But, to pick up for tomorrow...Ill do for 4 rules, symbolizing the 4 days I missed...lol:

Day 3 (Weekend):

1-Are you still working on your sport?? Either way, keep working at it. No matter what. Well, remember when I told you to create a Journal?? Take a little bit of space to write about your progress in getting prepared for the sport. You can do it!

2-Last-minute weekend plans: Tomorrow go ahead and ask a friend if they wanna hang out!! Tell them to invite a friend or two! That way, you can get to know them as well as them getting to know you! Always stay on your best behavior. =]

3- Compliments. Throw out random compliments to random people you'd really like to talk to. This is a great conversation starter. For example: "Hey, omg I love your shoes! Where'd you get em?" "--Really? I love that store! Did you get your shirt there too?"

And finally, number 4....*drumroll please...*

--Hang out w/ a "popular". Yup. Ask em to hang out. It could be a popular friend, cousin, sister, w/e. Just do something fun and enjoy yourself!


Well, I gotta go. School tomorrow, which bites. Bye!!

PS: I've gotten some of your emails, andd it'd be great to start including the readers in the blog to make it a lot better...lol. Once we get more readers, I'll definitely put this into consideration and possibly put together a team to work on the blog. The blog is still in the starting process so please bare with me!

♥,
Ruthie!<3

Success??

Well, I did the goals, all but one. Walking. I blame it on my being extremely busy today, but I know that's not a good enough excuse. In that case.....My score???

--3.5 out of 5--

Maybe because when I did talk to the people I talked to today and when I passed people, my voice was really quiet still AND I was a bit nervous. Even talking to my own relatives!! yikes!

Well, with school tomorrow I've decided to draw up some more Goals for you and I anndd this time, we're going to get a little bit more tough:

Goal #1: Pick out a nice outfit. Ask a friend what they think about it.

Tell them to BE HONEST. This will either give you the self-confidence you lack, or make you stronger. Just because someone doesn't like your outfit doesn't mean YOU don't have to like your outfit. Ask them what they don't like about it. Don't argue with their opinion, just accept it and take it as building criticism.

Goal #2: Talk to more people at school.

Maybe you'll spark a new friendship or two. Remember, DON'T be nervous and speak up. It'll be hard at first but once you get the hang of it, it'll be natural to you.

Goal #3: Get ready to join a club or sports team. Yup, I said it. You're going to be apart of an extracurricular activity.

Whether it be cheerleading, basketball, track, or even drama, get ready, cause in a few months or so, you're going to make it!! Find someone on a team or find an alternate to learning the basics of the sport you're going to go out for. Being on a team is a great way to make friends because before the end of the season, you will probably be friends with a few people on the team!

As for Goals #4 & 5, I'll leave a wildcard. Choose what YOU think your goals should be for today (hence, tomorrow...)

Well, I gotta go get ready for school tomorrow!! Ciao!

XOXO,
Ruthie <3

The Basics

Hey guys it's Ruthie! Here's my post for Day 1 of the guide:

~DAY 1~:
Today is Saturday, so I'm using my time to prep for going back to school after our short holiday break. Since I didn't really introduce myself, here I go:

• My name is Ruthie, I'm 15 years old, and a freshman in high school.

• I guess I'm really shy, which I'm gonna work on through this blog. While doing that, I'll help discover your problems, and together, we'll strive to become "popular" in a sense.

• I'm a typical teenage girl. I love reading fashion magazines, watching movies, and shopping. I also love sports, but I don't play any right now. :(

Now that we've got that covered, let's start our Day 1 of the guide...

Being popular is very important to a lot of teens today. But why do you want to be popular? What to you want to be popular for?

There are a variety of different kinds of popular people, we're going to focus on becoming well-liked for positive things and friends.

Since that's also covered, here are the goals for Day 1. These goals are something to help you on your mission to making more true friends, which is what REAL popularity is all about.

Goal #1: Have a conversation with someone new today. I don't care if it's a teen, a friend of a friend, or even an old lady. This will give you a little feel of socializing.

Goal #2: Pamper yourself. I don't care whether you're a boy or a girl, everyone deserves some pampering. Take a long relaxing bath and just listen to your favorite music. Bust out the nail kit and give yourself a manicure. Inviting a friend to join along will make this even more fun. But, if none are available, silence is always golden!

Goal #3: Get a journal. This might sound cheesy, but it'll help you a lot. And if you have nosy siblings and parents, you could always go to Penzu.com . It's a free website where you can sign-up and start journaling. Best thing is that it's password-protected. You can write anything in this journal. Your goals and how you've achieved them, lyrics to a song you're writing, private feelings you can't tell anyone else, etc. This way is a start so that you won't keep everything bottled up inside.

Goal #4: Go for a walk. Today's goals are mostly about helping you unwind and feel relaxed. Go for a walk or jog to relieve your stress. Sometimes, walking alone can be dangerous, so take a trusted friend and cell phone and don't forget to tell you're parents. If you cannot do that, don't walk very far from home, because this can be dangerous with or without a friend. Staying in a 2-block radius is good for a short, relaxing walk.

Goal #5: Begin quitting a bad habit. This may be talking quietly constantly. Now, this doesn't mean to YELL at everyone that passes you by, just find a middle point. Also, your bad habit could be biting your nails, or always looking angry. Whatever it is, take a small step towards ending this bad habit.

Try to acheive all 5 goals and you're one step closer to your goal of popularity. I'll complete these goals along with you so check back reguarly to see how it all went for me. If you need any advice on ANYTHING, please feel free to email me at: misspopularity_rs@yahoo.com . This is an email account I've made just for this blog, so I will be checking it often.

XOXO,

Ruthie <3

About the Blog.

I know, what a suck-ish way to start off a blog. But here it goes:

Well, I'm not the most popularest girl at school. That goes for a bunch of other people, too. And all that crap about Get Popular Quick books in my opinion= rubbish.

So I thought, why not take it into my own hands, to create a legit blog that, get this, actually helps people?? --I know what you're thinking. " Ruthie, that is sooooo impossible! I can't learn how to be popular!" Wrong. Don't underestimate this Babe Ruth xD.

So basically: This blog is a way to show my process to become popular postively and to help you become popular postively.

That's all for this intro folks. & remember, not all popularity is negative. You can be popular through your likeability, not just being a "slut".

XOXO,
Ruthie..<3

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